Can a Catholic's ashes be scattered or kept at home?

A Catholic's ashes should not be scattered. They should normally be buried or entombed in a cemetery, mausoleum, columbarium, or another place officially set aside for the remains of the dead.

Why cremation is allowed. The Church permits cremation when it is not chosen to deny the resurrection of the body or express beliefs contrary to Christianity (CCC 2301; Canon 1176 §3). Burial of the body remains the Church's preference because it more clearly expresses respect for the body and hope in the resurrection. Christians believe that the body was united to the person, became a temple of the Holy Spirit through Baptism, and will be raised by God (1 Cor 6:19; 15:42-44).

Why ashes should not be scattered. Cremated remains deserve the same basic reverence given to an intact body. Scattering ashes in the ocean, from a mountain, across a garden, or in another favorite place can obscure the Christian meaning of burial. It can also leave the deceased without a stable place where the faithful can pray and remember. The Church therefore requires ashes to be laid to rest together in a sacred place. They should not be divided among relatives, incorporated into jewelry, turned into keepsakes, or used in artwork.

Keeping ashes at home. Keeping ashes permanently on a mantel or in a closet is not the normal Catholic practice. The 2016 instruction Ad resurgendum cum Christo directs that ashes be conserved in a sacred place. In grave and exceptional circumstances, a local bishop may permit keeping them in a private residence according to the norms in force. Personal preference, convenience, or a plan to decide later would not ordinarily be enough. Temporary custody while burial arrangements are being made is a different situation.

What if ashes were already scattered. The deceased is still entrusted to God's mercy, and the family should not despair. If some ashes remain, arrange for their reverent burial or entombment. If none remain, a priest can help the family pray for the deceased and determine whether a memorial Mass or another suitable act should be offered. Catholics may always pray for the dead (2 Macc 12:45; CCC 958).

In practice. Tell your family in writing that you want a Catholic funeral and the reverent burial or entombment of your remains. If you currently have a relative's ashes at home, contact a parish or Catholic cemetery and arrange a permanent place of rest.