What happens at a Catholic wedding?

At a Catholic wedding, a man and woman freely give themselves to each other in a lifelong covenant. When both are baptized, their valid marriage is a sacrament, a visible sign of Christ's faithful love for His Church (CCC 1601, 1617).

The opening and Scripture. The priest or deacon welcomes the couple and the congregation. The celebration then includes the Liturgy of the Word, with readings from Scripture, a responsorial psalm, the Gospel, and a homily. The readings proclaim God's plan for marriage, from the union of man and woman in Genesis to Christ's teaching that husband and wife become one flesh (Gen 2:24; Mt 19:4-6). A wedding between two Catholics is often celebrated within Mass, though it may also be celebrated without Mass. Mixed marriages are commonly celebrated without Mass.

The questions and consent. The couple is asked whether they have come freely, whether they intend lifelong fidelity, and whether they are prepared to accept children lovingly from God and raise them according to Christ and His Church. They then exchange consent before the Church's authorized minister and two witnesses. Each promises fidelity for better or worse, in sickness and health, until death. This consent makes the marriage. No priest, parent, or government official can supply it for them (CCC 1625-1628; Canon 1108).

The rings and blessing. The priest or deacon receives the couple's consent in the name of the Church. The rings are blessed and exchanged as signs of love and fidelity. The celebration includes intercessions and the solemn nuptial blessing. Local customs, such as the arras, lazo, veil, or flowers for Mary, may be included when approved, but they do not create the marriage.

The Eucharist and married life. If the wedding is within Mass, the Liturgy of the Eucharist follows. Holy Communion expresses full communion with Christ and His Catholic Church, so ordinary Catholic requirements for receiving apply. The spouses then leave to live the covenant they have made. Their sacrament continues through daily fidelity, forgiveness, openness to children, prayer, work, suffering, and mutual care (CCC 1641-1642).

A Catholic wedding requires preparation and the proper Church permissions and documents. Contact the parish before choosing a date or signing venue contracts. The preparation is meant to help you enter a permanent covenant with freedom, faith, and a clear understanding of what you are promising.